What sort of adventures do you enjoy? Mine are those that require me to be sharp-witted, nimble, and flexible. To be a real adventure, there has to be some sort of excitement. As an adult, I often fall into the trap of “Plan Everything”. But more than excitement, it has to be something that’s actually worthy of my commitment.
You see, I come up with new ideas almost effortlessly. It’s natural for me to ‘begin with the end in my mind,’ as Stephen Covey recommends.
But it’s rare for me to take time planning every step along the way, carefully considering all possibilities, create a decision matrix the size of Kentucky, and present my ideas to a committee. That’s just not my style.
Sometimes I don’t even talk to my wife about my new ideas – big mistake. But that’s another story.
As adventurous as I am, I struggle with self-doubt and I sell myself short from time to time. More often than I’d like to admit. As bold as I often am, I have to be honest; I doubt myself.
This is something I’m learning to work through.
Maybe you’re the same way. Maybe you doubt whether or not some new idea you’ve come up with will actually work. Did you catch that- you’re doubting whether it will work. Not whether you’re good enough, smart enough, etc… That’s an important distinction.
Here are a few things that cause me to doubt on a regular basis. See if they resonate with you:
1- It’s too big. As in, I’ll never make it that far. I can’t make something that beautiful. I can’t possibly endure. I was recently inspired by Louis Zamperini’s tale as told by Laura Hillebrand in her Pulitzer Prize winning novel, Unbroken. A worthy read.
2- I haven’t planned it out well enough. This is a valid argument, but you can’t get hung up on all the unforeseen details. Plan it to the best you know how, then get started.
3- I’m not ‘x’ enough. It’s easy to think you don’t have enough smarts, strength, endurance, speed, education, connections, or money. The truth is, we have more than enough. We just need to remind ourselves from time to time.
We have to pick ourselves if we’re going to accomplish anything important. If we’re going to slay the dragon, we must first believe we can.
The best athletes and performers in the world practice their routine mentally, envisioning themselves finishing first, sticking the landing, and nailing every move with graceful bliss.
So how do we overcome these obstacles? These invisible roadblocks?
- Brian Tracy says that “we become what we think about most of the time.”
- Zig Ziglar taught us that like riding a bicycle, we must focus on where we want to go, not on the obstacles.
- I recommend we spend silent time focusing on our day and the end results we’ve imagined, instead of the challenges. Acknowledge the obstacles, but remind yourself you are capable of overcoming them as they appear.
- Ask for courage, guidance, wisdom and strength.
So I’m curious to know- How do you slay your dragons? What do you do to ensure you don’t let fear stop you from starting?
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